Relationships: Venus goes direct

We are finally heading out of Venus retrograde in Aries which began on March 6th. It goes direct on Friday, April 17th, and stations at 29 degrees of Pisces. The 29th degree of any sign is what is called a “critical” degree, which means that the energy of that particular sign is intensified as it leaves the sign. The effects of the retrograde period will continue to be felt until around May 21, when Venus returns to the 16th degree of Aries, where it first stationed. This time frame is called the "Shadow Period", and can be as intense as the actual retro phase.

Venus rules feelings and emotion, values, relationships, fashion, and all forms of money and wealth. It rules social attitudes and behaviors, female relationships and social interactions at every level. Venus rules romance, marriage and other partnerships, and the pursuit of pleasure. Venus in Aries is very romantic and is the rush of feelings we feel when we first fall in love. It is impetuous and impulsive. It is courtship and all of the excitement we feel in the beginning of a relationship.

During a retrograde period the things Venus influences are of less concern to us. It is not time to initiate a romantic relationship or try to move one forward. When Venus goes direct things seem to begin to have a life of their own, energy moves easier, and projects that we wanted to complete progress towards that goal. If you have felt a financial lack, money should begin to flow easier to you. Old debts can be repaid and new opportunities for jobs/careers are presented. During the “shadow period” we might experience some of the feeling of lack that we experienced in the retro phase. Keep focused on what you want and vision positive outcomes.

There's one sad truth in life I've found
While journeying east and west -
The only folks we really wound
Are those we love the best.
We flatter those we scarcely know,
We please the fleeting guest,
And deal full many a thoughtless blow
To those who love us best.
~Ella Wheeler Wilcox


Relationships are something we all have had experience with from the beginning of our life. If one believes in reincarnation then we are drawn to the mother/father/family that will serve us best in our spiritual growth and evolution while we are on this planet. We also come in with set ideas about life based on cellular memory. These memories get activated as we move through our life. Whether we are relating in a romantic relationship or with friends or family, we are being influenced by cellular memory. Have you ever met someone that you instantly liked or felt drawn to, or someone that appeared to be a nice person but for some reason you just could not stand? This is your cellular memory being activated by that person’s energy coming into your space and you into theirs. Sometimes this is called “karmic” relationships, and for good or for not, they make a profound influence on our life. The greatest blessings of course are the relationships that we draw in that have good memories, the greatest hardships can be the ones that we have unfinished business with, or a need to complete. Either way relationships are with us constantly in our life, reflecting back to us where we still might need to grow, or showing us where we have grown. We must be the conscious participant. Whether it is friendship, family, marriage, etc., be aware that you have the greatest opportunity to grow, when you interact with another. The times that we spend alone are meant for us to turn within, to examine ourselves so we can try out our growth when we interact with others. If someone “pushes” a button with you try to move out of anger, anxiety or fear and be the observer of self.

We all have a need to be loved and to give love. Each one of us exhibits love to another in the way that we have been shown what love is. One of the most difficult things to understand is that another person might love us but does not show it in actions or words in the way that we might need. Most problems begin when our expectations do not get met. Communication is the key that will give us solutions to these issues. When I look at relationships with astrology, be they personal or business, I look at the persons Mercury, what sign it is in will tell me how this person communicates. Fire signs are passionate, Air signs love to talk, Water signs want to hear and talk about feelings, and Earth signs are about practicality. So the sign your Mercury is in is very important in your style of communicating.

As we move forward with Venus direct hopefully you will have spent some time examining what is important to you, your values, and how you want to live your life. In these times of difficult Pluto in Capricorn events and change, it will become more important to vision how we want things to be. Pluto in Capricorn will tear down the established structure to be rebuilt anew. It is a shared vision of values that we as a society need to bring forth. Perhaps we will now go back to valuing our relationships more, in our families, neighborhoods and in our country. With the Pluto station and retrograde until September of this year we will be looking at how we deal with authority, who we project authority onto and where we learned in our family to see who the authority was. In a lot of families this can be dear old dad. “Just wait until your dad comes home” is something I remember from my childhood that meant I was really in trouble. For those of us who did not grow up in two parent households the authority figure could have been projected onto anyone.
Now in the bigger picture we will be looking at our government and how that idea of authority in our lives will change. Already we are seeing the beginning of changes in institutions such as education, banking, insurance companies, etc., albeit forced. As we look at rebuilding our countries infrastructure will it be rebuilt with new technologies such as high speed trains, stronger bridges, more efficient automobiles, better transportation in general? New technologies now have a chance to come forward and make significant changes in how we live. Pluto in Capricorn can break down the barriers of resistance to free energy ideas. Taking those patents off the shelf and allowing them to be utilized in making life easier for us all. Perhaps we will see a more balanced government of and for the people. Certainly we are seeing an example of Pluto in Capricorn at work by the national “tea parties” being planned for April 15th.

Expect more earthquakes, volcanic eruptions, floods and melting ice caps as even the earth goes through a restructuring. Perhaps this is where we will begin to realize just how important relationships are in our lives.


“Lots of people want to ride with you in the limo, but what you want is someone who will take the bus with you when the limo breaks down.” ~Oprah Winfrey

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