“What greater thing is there for two human souls than to feel that they are joined ... to strengthen each other ... to be at one with each other in silent unspeakable memories.”
Relationships are with us continually in our life, reflecting back to us where we still might need to grow, or showing us where we have grown. We must be the conscious participant and the observer of self. Whether it is friendship, family, marriage, etc., be aware that you have the greatest opportunity to grow, when you interact with another.
The times that we spend alone are meant for us to turn within, to examine ourselves. When we are ready to invite in another person into our constructed reality, we then have a better understanding of what is being reflected back to us.
Soulmate
Soulmate is a label used to specify someone with whom one has an instant feeling of deep and natural attraction, and/or compatibility. As discussed in my last blog we can encounter many people that we have had other lifetimes with, for good or bad, for joy, or for pain, and sometimes just for a lot of unfinished business. People can come to us in many forms, as father, mother, sister, brother, husband, wife, girlfriend, boyfriend, boss, employee and so on. Soulmates are part of our larger soul group.
The most asked questions that I have when people come for counseling are the ones about soulmates. Is, he/she the one? The answer is always that the person we are relating to now is always “the one”. We have chosen to have this person in our life at this moment in time to reflect or mirror back to us.
When seeking out guidance in readings or counseling it is these types of relationships that usually indicate that one or the other is generally not available or ready, whether that person is already involved with someone else, married or otherwise just not emotionally available.
How do you know if this is really really the “one”?
Soulmates are not always a relationship that is long term. In romantic relationships everyone hopes they have found the “love of their life”, but sometimes soulmates are not meant to be long term and do not always have happy endings.
For those who are consciously aware, we understand that relationships are mirrors for us, and that a soulmate relationship can reflect back to us who we were as we move forward in growth. We can draw in people who were in the same vibration, who had the same lessons to learn, etc. to show us how far we have grown, and they do not stay unless we allow it. These relationships can occur when someone has worked to move out of addiction, divorce, trauma, etc. Patterns of acting and reacting come around again for us and are exhibited in these interactions. Ultimately these relationships are short, the ones that we ask ourselves “why” they are in our life. Did we not learn the lesson? Just bless them and move on, give gratitude and thanks that we are now free of an old pattern.
Another type of soulmate relationship is the one that mirrors who you are now and where you are on your path. These relationships can often have an emotional charge to them as they test out your newly acquired people and communicating skills. These relationships often show up when people decide they are ready to “settle” down and they can lead to marriage for some. Lots of comedy material about husband and wives has been written about these relationships. These are sometimes some of the most difficult relationships as they can really push our buttons.
And finally, when we have really been working on ourselves, we draw in the type of relationship that mirrors our potential. This soulmate relationship shows you who you could or can be. For women this can be the man who is successful out in the world. For men this can reflect back the feminine intuitive spiritual side of themselves that they need to utilize for further growth. The “pedestal” relationships fall into this category. When working with clients this relationship is the one that shows the most promise and yet is the one that can have the most disappointment. When one’s object of affection falls off that pedestal the other person is disappointed and can feel deceived or fooled. In fact, these relationships offer us the most potential for our own continued growth and when acknowledged as such, can be a promising long term relationship where both people continue to grow, and are valued as equals in the relationship. These are the relationships that I coach clients on to continue, to seek out and strengthen those aspects of themselves that they see and admire in their beloved, and to learn about mutual respect.
What the heck is a twin flame?
Much has been written about a special type of relationship which has been called a “twin flame”. Twin flames, which are also called twin souls, are figuratively the other half of our soul.
The common belief is that we each have only one twin, and that after the soul split in an original incarnation, the two went their separate ways, incarnating over and over again in order to gather experience in human form before coming back together. You probably haven't had many lifetimes with your twin, if any.
The ultimate “attainment” relationship, in the past twin flame relationships have not been all that common. 2009 however, is the year that a lot of people will find themselves meeting a twin flame, or finally realizing that one has been in your life all along. A twin flame is a spiritual match, someone who has been walking their path, learning the same lessons of growth, and it is somewhat like the experience that identical birth twins have. If there is mental pain, the “other” experiences it as if it were their own whether they are in the same town or across the world. There are similar physical, mental and emotional experiences. Twin flames experience no time or distance boundaries when in communication on the soul level.
Many times when twin flames have not yet met, they will experience individually emotions that they can not explain. This is not the general empathic quality that a person develops in unfoldment, but an unknown unexplainable emotion, or thoughts and feelings drawn in and to a specific direction. This is the desire to find that “other half” that many seek out in soulmate relationships. Most twin flames are on the same path in this dimension, and most are on the evolved path of service to others. The ego is being refined and purified and there is a deep understanding that when twins get together it is for some kind of spiritual work. The ego always creates separation and represents what we are healing here on Earth.
Twin flames are not always easy relationships as both people must be able to handle the intensity on the soul level. This intensity is not the attraction of the physical, or the drama of emotional involvement, and any unfinished individual healing will be brought up in an accelerated way. Communication for twin flames is very telepathic, and for both individuals communication with guidance is very strong.
Through the union of twin souls a great creative energy is released for a spiritual purpose. The twin flame mirror is the mirror of the heart. Your Twin Flame will always reflect back to you the state of your heart. Since the path back to source, or god, is through the heart, it is the twin flame that journirs with us back home.
If you have found your twin flame, congratulations are in order, if not, then keep opening your heart, for it is in the opening of the heart that you will magnetize to you the partner you have been seeking all these lifetimes.
I am like a falling star who has finally found her place next to another in a lovely constellation, where we will sparkle in the heavens forever. Amy Tan
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